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lb_leeRogan: I guess, if I had to summarize my feelings about labels, any kind of identity label, it’d be this: labels are created for people; people are not created to fit them.
A label describes, but it shouldn’t define. If it strangles you, ditch it. Even if you can’t avoid other people slapping it on you, you don’t have to make THEIR mistake part of YOUR identity. (Sadly, uprooting nasty brainweeds like that is rarely as simple as just saying no. You may end up having to know your enemy, do way more research, and think way more about it than you’d like, just to pull up all them runners. It’s worth it, though, to be free!)
Whatever label you choose, hold it loosely. Don’t death-grip it, or you’re priming yourself for a total identity collapse if/when you change... and change is the only constant. Let yourself grow. Let yourself be playful about what you call yourself and why; we call ourself a “multivarious cyborg” and it’s a typo! We named ourself Loony-brain thinking this was just an embarrassing stage we were going through, and now we own it! We went from soulbonder to natural multiple to DID to “yes and” multi. Maybe one day, we’ll even be singlet again, or something else entirely!
Knowing your label is not the same as knowing yourSELF. There’s no linguistic shortcut for that work. Nobody can do it for you, and that’s good news: it puts the power in YOUR hands.
Use it well, and don’t hang on so hard.
A label describes, but it shouldn’t define. If it strangles you, ditch it. Even if you can’t avoid other people slapping it on you, you don’t have to make THEIR mistake part of YOUR identity. (Sadly, uprooting nasty brainweeds like that is rarely as simple as just saying no. You may end up having to know your enemy, do way more research, and think way more about it than you’d like, just to pull up all them runners. It’s worth it, though, to be free!)
Whatever label you choose, hold it loosely. Don’t death-grip it, or you’re priming yourself for a total identity collapse if/when you change... and change is the only constant. Let yourself grow. Let yourself be playful about what you call yourself and why; we call ourself a “multivarious cyborg” and it’s a typo! We named ourself Loony-brain thinking this was just an embarrassing stage we were going through, and now we own it! We went from soulbonder to natural multiple to DID to “yes and” multi. Maybe one day, we’ll even be singlet again, or something else entirely!
Knowing your label is not the same as knowing yourSELF. There’s no linguistic shortcut for that work. Nobody can do it for you, and that’s good news: it puts the power in YOUR hands.
Use it well, and don’t hang on so hard.
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Date: 2026-03-27 05:00 pm (UTC)yeah . end up with private obsidian vault that use to hold onto these kind of labels , just to satisfy those feelings , but never actually use those labels to explain ... anything .
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Date: 2026-03-27 08:27 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2026-03-27 08:41 pm (UTC)what notice in niche microlabels ( frankly hypermicro or something ) particularly is also wild amounts of overlap - various microlabels pop up for ( as example here ) connections to songs , connections to song lyrics , connections to music videos , and then further those could splinter off into gender microlabels , sexuality microlabels , so on and so forth .
think nothing wrong to feel connections like that , no matter how niche and hyperspecific . but then with these labels , will either start to get into weeds of either figure out exactly which specific word fit , which may become wild goose chase that will never satisfy , or just choose every single one and potentially miss out on bigger picture of why serve as connection in first place .
so yeah , sometimes just look at vault to prompt thought and internal discussion about feelings and connections , but without pin down into any box :P