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lb_leeDigging around in Ye Olde Plural Sites, figured I'd toss some stuff up here before I forget it all.
I found the Vickis' old site from ~1998. As far as I understand right now, they may have propagated the term "midcontinuum," before "median" was in use. (And it turns out that "median" was apparently associated with Pavilion Hall, a multi "activist" group that was a rolling trash fire and had their own bizarro quasi-metaphysical explanation for what being in-between multi and singlet was. It made no fucking sense.) The Vickis might also have helped start the idea of "plural" as an umbrella term, more expansive than "multiple," a term they were using by 1/15/1998. I'll probably have to dig through the alt.support.dissociation archives to test this for sure.
Their site has some really good stuff on it! I especially want to bring attention to the following three essays:
Does it work? -- An essay that tackles the question of "I am multiple?" and fears of faking better than anything else I've seen.
The Power of Naming -- Who gets to decide what a "real" multiple is, and why?
Building Safety and Trust -- a post by BigVicki (and a couple of other ASDers) on how to build safety, trust, and communication within your system/household, especially if you've gotten off on the wrong foot.
All of these essays are highly relevant to plurals today, twenty years later, and the Vickis are one of the few systems I see talking about the in-between spaces, which I feel is much-needed. I have no idea if they're around anymore, or how to contact them, so I can't get their permission, but I plan to have these linked on the healthymultiplicity.com home page, since I feel their utility can't be denied and mustn't be lost.
I found the Vickis' old site from ~1998. As far as I understand right now, they may have propagated the term "midcontinuum," before "median" was in use. (And it turns out that "median" was apparently associated with Pavilion Hall, a multi "activist" group that was a rolling trash fire and had their own bizarro quasi-metaphysical explanation for what being in-between multi and singlet was. It made no fucking sense.) The Vickis might also have helped start the idea of "plural" as an umbrella term, more expansive than "multiple," a term they were using by 1/15/1998. I'll probably have to dig through the alt.support.dissociation archives to test this for sure.
Their site has some really good stuff on it! I especially want to bring attention to the following three essays:
Does it work? -- An essay that tackles the question of "I am multiple?" and fears of faking better than anything else I've seen.
The Power of Naming -- Who gets to decide what a "real" multiple is, and why?
Building Safety and Trust -- a post by BigVicki (and a couple of other ASDers) on how to build safety, trust, and communication within your system/household, especially if you've gotten off on the wrong foot.
All of these essays are highly relevant to plurals today, twenty years later, and the Vickis are one of the few systems I see talking about the in-between spaces, which I feel is much-needed. I have no idea if they're around anymore, or how to contact them, so I can't get their permission, but I plan to have these linked on the healthymultiplicity.com home page, since I feel their utility can't be denied and mustn't be lost.
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Date: 2018-07-27 10:26 am (UTC)Strangers in a Strange Land: Balancing the subjective reality with the external one. This is one of the instances where I just feel relieved to see someone else talking about this stuff even if my experiences and theories aren't quite the same as theirs.
Holy War: Divisions in the multiple community 15 years ago, and... in retrospect, a depressing number of things haven't changed.
What Is Your Role?: why it's a bad question to ask
ISH Fraud: "I often think of the Internal Self Helper as the therapists escape hatch. If they don't know how to handle something, if they have no idea on how to deal or understand something they can call on an ISH and have them deal with it. This is their way out, their avoidance of their own issues around the client or multiplicity in general. It also provides them with an excuse for not acting or helping their clients. If they receive one that is in crisis, that can not deal with a certain situation they can put all the responsibility onto the client themselves, or specifically the Internal Self Helper." Yuuuuuup. Definitely seen this.
Sex and Children: Everyone should freaking read this. EVERYONE
...they also discuss in-system deaths and system ghosts in other places on the site.
Also, apparently they had a therapist who convinced them that their memories of religious abuse were SRA because all religious abuse has to be SRA. I don't think I've ever seen anyone else openly talk about this before without going the whole "multipul personalitys dont exits" route.
-Istevia