Yeah, for sure, and I'm sympathetic to the feeling, if not their reaction to it. Like, do we here have a perfect life, has this whole system thing all been easy fun? Not really! But, lacking any surprise out of nowhere suppressed memory with absolutely no symptoms hinting toward it, we could probably only kind of sort of theoretically get diagnosed with one of the OSDDs, and even that's iffy because there just isn't enough distress. The dissociation, the PTSD, all that, I don't envy anyone else and totally get people being bitter that others "have it easier". Because in some very specific ways, yeah, they probably do.
But that's turned into this idea of "you either suffer as much as me (and have your suffering approved by a doctor) or your experiences are made up". Strict DID types are now assuming that they're being MALICIOUSLY attacked, that there's a sudden wave of singlets who enjoy roleplaying and making a mockery of their suffering, and that telling them to stop roleplaying should be all it takes. Anyone who resists after that is DEFINITELY faking their real illness for fun.
I compare it to trans stuff a lot, because it's a similar non-proveable mental state. And this reminds me a lot of truscum ideology, where lack of "enough" suffering means people are mocking a real medical condition by treating it as a fashion accessory. Because clearly "you do you but I personally don't want phalloplasty" translates to "I love pretending to be a boy for social status without having to deal with your crippling physical dysphoria lol!!!!". And that upsets people.
I don't know how to convince anyone otherwise, when they're so entrenched in this worldview that their suffering means everyone else must suffer equally to be real. Not that I'm, uh, really trying. I'm not a sweeping argument CHANGE THE WORLD type, I just ugh and move on.
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Date: 2017-10-10 05:10 pm (UTC)Yeah, for sure, and I'm sympathetic to the feeling, if not their reaction to it. Like, do we here have a perfect life, has this whole system thing all been easy fun? Not really! But, lacking any surprise out of nowhere suppressed memory with absolutely no symptoms hinting toward it, we could probably only kind of sort of theoretically get diagnosed with one of the OSDDs, and even that's iffy because there just isn't enough distress. The dissociation, the PTSD, all that, I don't envy anyone else and totally get people being bitter that others "have it easier". Because in some very specific ways, yeah, they probably do.
But that's turned into this idea of "you either suffer as much as me (and have your suffering approved by a doctor) or your experiences are made up". Strict DID types are now assuming that they're being MALICIOUSLY attacked, that there's a sudden wave of singlets who enjoy roleplaying and making a mockery of their suffering, and that telling them to stop roleplaying should be all it takes. Anyone who resists after that is DEFINITELY faking their real illness for fun.
I compare it to trans stuff a lot, because it's a similar non-proveable mental state. And this reminds me a lot of truscum ideology, where lack of "enough" suffering means people are mocking a real medical condition by treating it as a fashion accessory. Because clearly "you do you but I personally don't want phalloplasty" translates to "I love pretending to be a boy for social status without having to deal with your crippling physical dysphoria lol!!!!". And that upsets people.
I don't know how to convince anyone otherwise, when they're so entrenched in this worldview that their suffering means everyone else must suffer equally to be real. Not that I'm, uh, really trying. I'm not a sweeping argument CHANGE THE WORLD type, I just ugh and move on.