Weirdly relevant to why Kama and some others have been running into issues with spiritual work. When you've been gaslit, minimized, and dismissed to hell - and done all of those things to yourself - letting go runs counter to what's kept you safe. If the situation is shitty, recognising you shouldn't tolerate mistreatment and have the agency to change your situation is really important.
Hell, one of the ways people dealt with the ex-roommates while living with them was choosing love and compassion over anger/hate. It stopped people from escalating from our end or taking bait, which would have made the situation exponentially worse. But it did not stop those roommates from abusing people.
And it didn't stop abuse any other time. It's not a solution all by itself. It doesn't solve the problem of boundaries being violated or something happening that isn't okay. It doesn't help boundaries get repaired or sooth the things that are still hurting.
Trying to look at mainstream spirituality can be really mindfuck-y, coming from an abusive situation. It needs to be recontextualized/reapproached.
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Date: 2023-08-01 03:25 am (UTC)Hell, one of the ways people dealt with the ex-roommates while living with them was choosing love and compassion over anger/hate. It stopped people from escalating from our end or taking bait, which would have made the situation exponentially worse. But it did not stop those roommates from abusing people.
And it didn't stop abuse any other time. It's not a solution all by itself. It doesn't solve the problem of boundaries being violated or something happening that isn't okay. It doesn't help boundaries get repaired or sooth the things that are still hurting.
Trying to look at mainstream spirituality can be really mindfuck-y, coming from an abusive situation. It needs to be recontextualized/reapproached.
- Achilleus (he/him)