Mhm, those squishy details make sense to us! It also makes sense to usually avoid talking about them, even just for simplicity. A friend once told us "I think my brain might work like yours, except mine is all messy and everything you say about yours sounds really distinct and separated." That is really not true about us! We just barely have the words to talk about being a big group of people. How do you express the fluidity of existence that's actually there? (We might need to make a comic strip about it.) So whenever we talk about system stuff, we come across much more defined than we actually are...
And yeah, feel that. Constantly having to justify why we like being multi is a pain, and does weird things to our brain. It's not even that we like it - some of us do! Some of just are just like "well this is how we exist". Just like some of us celebrate being trans and others are like "yeah, this is a neutral fact about me". But in some spaces we feel pressure to perform absolute acceptance and joy, just because they're pushing against that so hard and we want to prove that we CAN be multi and happy about it. And we can! But often we're actually just neutral about it.
Sometimes (recently especially) we struggle with it. And we still don't want people to push those narratives onto us. We just want to be able to say that it's hard sometimes.
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Date: 2023-03-04 08:51 pm (UTC)And yeah, feel that. Constantly having to justify why we like being multi is a pain, and does weird things to our brain. It's not even that we like it - some of us do! Some of just are just like "well this is how we exist". Just like some of us celebrate being trans and others are like "yeah, this is a neutral fact about me". But in some spaces we feel pressure to perform absolute acceptance and joy, just because they're pushing against that so hard and we want to prove that we CAN be multi and happy about it. And we can! But often we're actually just neutral about it.
Sometimes (recently especially) we struggle with it. And we still don't want people to push those narratives onto us. We just want to be able to say that it's hard sometimes.