I'm singlet (and, given the topic, should probably clarify that I always have been), but what you're saying is actually pretty relatable.
I have a physical disability. I've had it since infancy. It's normal for me. It's how my body works. It will likely never be cured. This is seen as a tragedy by other people. I've been encouraged to pursue medical treatment in the hope of a long-short cure. I've had people try to sell me weird expensive alternative treatments. I've had people offer me weird massages, with no recognition of how creepy "I want to get you in an isolated location and touch your legs" is from a total stranger. And I've seen so many narratives about people like me where the only happy ending is Become Normal and anything else is existing in a perpetual state of tragedy.
And I don't want to be the person telling someone with a disability causing chronic pain that they're somehow bad or shameful for wanting to be cure. I think there's room for finding a balance, but the balance can't ignore the scale of pressure against people like me being fine with who we are. So I think there's some similarities in experience.
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Date: 2023-01-13 02:13 am (UTC)I have a physical disability. I've had it since infancy. It's normal for me. It's how my body works. It will likely never be cured. This is seen as a tragedy by other people. I've been encouraged to pursue medical treatment in the hope of a long-short cure. I've had people try to sell me weird expensive alternative treatments. I've had people offer me weird massages, with no recognition of how creepy "I want to get you in an isolated location and touch your legs" is from a total stranger. And I've seen so many narratives about people like me where the only happy ending is Become Normal and anything else is existing in a perpetual state of tragedy.
And I don't want to be the person telling someone with a disability causing chronic pain that they're somehow bad or shameful for wanting to be cure. I think there's room for finding a balance, but the balance can't ignore the scale of pressure against people like me being fine with who we are. So I think there's some similarities in experience.