Oh man, we've just given up on any attempt at gender shit in singlet mode. We basically just wait to see how the other person perceives us, and then try to run with it. There's just no winning that one, with a system as mixed-gender as ours. But I feel the same, similar emotional ambivalence where my values conflict with my emotions!
More and more, I'm suspecting that privilege is hush money, the pacifier shoved in your mouth to shut you up. It's showering you with superficial societal benefits, with unjustified power, as though that makes up for the cost of inner hell, the restriction of harmless behavior, or the dawning moral crisis of realizing the double standard and how cruel it is. Some people are never even offered the beating stick in the first place, while others are offered it and expected to act like it's in their best interest.
We've definitely known systems that don't switch! There have been a few different groups over the years with that as their major set-up, though they've gone by various names and philosophies and are often mutually ignorant of each other.
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Date: 2023-01-11 11:31 pm (UTC)More and more, I'm suspecting that privilege is hush money, the pacifier shoved in your mouth to shut you up. It's showering you with superficial societal benefits, with unjustified power, as though that makes up for the cost of inner hell, the restriction of harmless behavior, or the dawning moral crisis of realizing the double standard and how cruel it is. Some people are never even offered the beating stick in the first place, while others are offered it and expected to act like it's in their best interest.
We've definitely known systems that don't switch! There have been a few different groups over the years with that as their major set-up, though they've gone by various names and philosophies and are often mutually ignorant of each other.
Aw, thanks!