For the people that do want to be a singlet, and where everyone in the system is in agreement and stays in agreement...it has to be a good thing, and over time we've had to come to terms with the fact that we just cannot relate to them. We cannot think of it as anything other than death. Even for people who were, in theory, part of whoever our original was; Bec loves being a person who gets to be independent. Little Red wants to be able to be a child and develop her own interests. That's not even getting into the rest of us; we weren't originally part of the original, anyway, so the best we can hope for in that situation is suppression.
But we know people who want it. Vocally, even. We used to be shittier about this, but we've learned that not everyone sees themselves the way we do, and that's fine. But you're right. Unfortunately, with singlet-ness the default, there will always be external pressure to be that.
We relate to your experience of trying to make your plurality non-threatening, ever since we told all our friends about it. We cut off our sharp edges, and then have to think about just how odd we want to openly be around people. How much of ourselves to sacrifice for their comfort. It isn't fair.
Sorry for the wall of text. All I can say is, we understand the conflicted feelings. I think it's okay to have them. -Ahri (she/her)
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Date: 2023-01-10 11:42 pm (UTC)But we know people who want it. Vocally, even. We used to be shittier about this, but we've learned that not everyone sees themselves the way we do, and that's fine. But you're right. Unfortunately, with singlet-ness the default, there will always be external pressure to be that.
We relate to your experience of trying to make your plurality non-threatening, ever since we told all our friends about it. We cut off our sharp edges, and then have to think about just how odd we want to openly be around people. How much of ourselves to sacrifice for their comfort. It isn't fair.
Sorry for the wall of text. All I can say is, we understand the conflicted feelings. I think it's okay to have them. -Ahri (she/her)