We are posting to back up what has been said here.
We did not know PF as long as LB has, but we held them in very warm regard for the time that we did. We had interesting conversations on the limitations of mainstream psychology, especially as an institution, and it was extremely validating to see someone else talk about the intersections of race and plurality. We were glad to consider them part of our little DW plural circle.
When they posted the "if you don't hear from us in 24 hours, assume we're dead" post, we were greatly alarmed. As days turned to weeks, we gave up hope of them being alive, and routinely searched the obituaries for some kind of final confirmation. To say that it was a huge relief to finally hear back from them, two months later, was an understatement. We sent them 200 dollars and immediately contacted some other people who we knew were worried.
That was the end of our own interactions with them. Then LB contacted us with their concerns. We were there, in real time, as they put together the pieces, dug up information on the cats, called Animal Control, and learned the news.
There aren't any words to describe what it was like.
We do think PF's situation was genuinely bad. That they were living in a deteriorating house, that they were struggling with serious conditions that they were unable to find treatment for, that what passes for social welfare in this country had failed them. But that does not change the fact that they abandoned their pets, that they manipulated friends, that they endangered their at-risk partner (and others) by dragging him across states in the middle of a pandemic, and that they invented increasingly outlandish tales to cover all of this up. We no longer know if we can trust anything they say, nor can we trust them not to take advantage of us or others.
We do not wish harm upon them. But they are beyond our ability to help, and for our own safety and others', we are ending our association with them.
We will end this post by strongly seconding LB's recommendation to help Amorpha. Do not go after PF. We have made this post not to bring divine retribution down upon them, but to keep people informed and safe. Please focus your justice upon building up those in need.
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Date: 2021-02-07 12:48 am (UTC)We did not know PF as long as LB has, but we held them in very warm regard for the time that we did. We had interesting conversations on the limitations of mainstream psychology, especially as an institution, and it was extremely validating to see someone else talk about the intersections of race and plurality. We were glad to consider them part of our little DW plural circle.
When they posted the "if you don't hear from us in 24 hours, assume we're dead" post, we were greatly alarmed. As days turned to weeks, we gave up hope of them being alive, and routinely searched the obituaries for some kind of final confirmation. To say that it was a huge relief to finally hear back from them, two months later, was an understatement. We sent them 200 dollars and immediately contacted some other people who we knew were worried.
That was the end of our own interactions with them. Then LB contacted us with their concerns. We were there, in real time, as they put together the pieces, dug up information on the cats, called Animal Control, and learned the news.
There aren't any words to describe what it was like.
We do think PF's situation was genuinely bad. That they were living in a deteriorating house, that they were struggling with serious conditions that they were unable to find treatment for, that what passes for social welfare in this country had failed them. But that does not change the fact that they abandoned their pets, that they manipulated friends, that they endangered their at-risk partner (and others) by dragging him across states in the middle of a pandemic, and that they invented increasingly outlandish tales to cover all of this up. We no longer know if we can trust anything they say, nor can we trust them not to take advantage of us or others.
We do not wish harm upon them. But they are beyond our ability to help, and for our own safety and others', we are ending our association with them.
We will end this post by strongly seconding LB's recommendation to help Amorpha. Do not go after PF. We have made this post not to bring divine retribution down upon them, but to keep people informed and safe. Please focus your justice upon building up those in need.
Thank you.