Yeah, it... we went way down that rabbithole for a while, and it was not a healthy thing. I think we were pretty much trying to get other people to give us a foundation to function off of, and it both didn't work and did us active harm. Honestly, I'd compare it (at least how we were going) to the thing y'all've talked about seeing at the conventions, and that I remember seeing on usenet, with therapists as parent figures--trying to offload the responsibility of functioning onto someone else, and no matter how good everyone's intentions were it just doesn't work like that, and then you've made yourself a giant mess you have to sort out, so you're worse off than before because you have to relearn how to even begin to function.
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Date: 2019-07-21 04:33 pm (UTC)