Yeah, Rawlin, I've been seeing the posts and writing about the journey you've been on so far. Forgive me if this is too forward but I wish you luck figuring your current situation out.
The hobby part is like, tip number one for clawing your way out of the Problems Guy trap. It gives you something entirely outside the problem and also a thing to talk about/avenue to connect with others that isn't The Problems and also is a way to pass the time while you're working on the problems and waiting for them to resolve. The way my wife talked about it, how she got herself out of the Problems Guy pit, was that she started on a hobby, started spending more time on it, branching off into others and then suddenly one day looked up "and realized [I hadn't] thought about the Problems in a week." It's something so straightforward but so effective if you can put the time in.
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The hobby part is like, tip number one for clawing your way out of the Problems Guy trap. It gives you something entirely outside the problem and also a thing to talk about/avenue to connect with others that isn't The Problems and also is a way to pass the time while you're working on the problems and waiting for them to resolve. The way my wife talked about it, how she got herself out of the Problems Guy pit, was that she started on a hobby, started spending more time on it, branching off into others and then suddenly one day looked up "and realized [I hadn't] thought about the Problems in a week." It's something so straightforward but so effective if you can put the time in.