As a system with a formerly labeled 'evil/bad/problematic' member who we rejected for years, fueled by the social justice monster...things only improved for us as a whole when we started treating that member like a person. Now we all get along well and are healthier for it. Nobody is perfect, and feeling like we had to be to the point of suppressing and blaming another member for intrusive thoughts was dangerous and hurtful for all involved. 100% agreed it's a decently common manipulation tactic others use. We're glad to recognize it now.

Also that therapist sounds like a sack of shit.