I wanted to remove myself from the picture, lose the self-consciousness that social justice monstrosity encourages
This also helped me break out of an SJ-inspired self-hate spiral that I experienced last spring. I won't go into details here (I might, at some future date, on my own blog), but it was related to my role as a White Lady In Fandom.
I was talking about it with a fannish friend, and they suggested that I find at least one creator of color to support on Patreon, because, in their words, "as a patron you will be faceless and not obtrusive/it will not be about you." While not everyone can afford to throw money at YouTubers, I could, so I did. And it reminded me that there are probably other ways to support marginalized people that don't involve "proving" what a supposedly good ally I am, since (as I have discussed with you before), I deeply resent the social pressure to "prove it."
"You just don't want your delicate feefees hurt," or "You can't handle the truth,"
I think that assertions like this one are so insidious because there is some truth to them. Sometimes avoiding uncomfortable realities because one wants to avoid emotional distress is the wrong decision and does have negative consequences for oneself and others! But it can easily cross the line into "if it causes you emotional distress, it must be good and helpful" which can be a tool of self-harm and interpersonal harm.
This whole post was very good and I'm glad that you made it.
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This also helped me break out of an SJ-inspired self-hate spiral that I experienced last spring. I won't go into details here (I might, at some future date, on my own blog), but it was related to my role as a White Lady In Fandom.
I was talking about it with a fannish friend, and they suggested that I find at least one creator of color to support on Patreon, because, in their words, "as a patron you will be faceless and not obtrusive/it will not be about you." While not everyone can afford to throw money at YouTubers, I could, so I did. And it reminded me that there are probably other ways to support marginalized people that don't involve "proving" what a supposedly good ally I am, since (as I have discussed with you before), I deeply resent the social pressure to "prove it."
"You just don't want your delicate feefees hurt," or "You can't handle the truth,"
I think that assertions like this one are so insidious because there is some truth to them. Sometimes avoiding uncomfortable realities because one wants to avoid emotional distress is the wrong decision and does have negative consequences for oneself and others! But it can easily cross the line into "if it causes you emotional distress, it must be good and helpful" which can be a tool of self-harm and interpersonal harm.
This whole post was very good and I'm glad that you made it.