Twedgy is a good word for it yeah! 'Squick' is another borrowed from fandom for things that bother or revulse you.
The first inclusive plural spaces online that didnt try to chase us off for not being Textbook Perfect Dissociative Disorder that we found were mixed-tulpa spaces and daemonism, so people going from singlet to plural doesnt twedge us out nearly as much as it does yall- we have positive associations with tulpamancy as a FAR more welcoming space to learn system skills. Being exposed to all those people talking about their experiences in-depth for whom new headmates was always joyous and healing(and not a blurry ball of confusion or a no-emotions 'well ok then' sort of thing as it seems to be for us) helped for sure. The more you understand and read and expose yourself to new stuff unlike your experience the more tolerance you have for it and all that. Its part of why despite being Squicked Out Bad by integration stuff we make an effort to at least try reading some of it. Maybe eventually we will have less of a kneejerk to it.
If you arent familiar with a particular community At All it can feel a lot more strange and threatening. Tulpamancy is one of them for both plural folks and singlets because of how it so casually crosses those borders weve all put up and has a totally different culture and framework around the whole thing. They are pushing the limits of the human brain in new and untested waters and thats Going to be uncomfortable to a lot of people. They are doing something thoroughly unlike many people's experiences, and it calls into question the nature of plurality itself in a way that fundamentally bothers a lot of people. What *really* causes plurality, what is *really* happening if a tulpamancer's end result is indistinguishable from a trauma-based system thats achieved healthy multiplicity from a 'from birth' endogenic multiple? SO many theories that are popular get toasted when you take into account reports from that community and their material experiences being so similar- when the fact that tulpa techniques WORK for other kinds of systems to learn skills or to help their headmates become more separate. They can be free of the troubles that more dissociative and/or traumatized systems have and still be plural- flying in the face of a hundred 'you have alters so you that is your ENTIRE validation for your trauma and the only way you need to justify your suffering' teachings even more than 'normal' endogenic systems do because 'they might just not remember it' doesnt work when its documented as it is. Their findings and community can feel like a threat when they upend the status quo like that and then dont give any answers to the questions that they raise.
Theres an MRI study thats happening on tulpa systems (they recently finished putting people in the machines so hopefully it gets published soon) that may further upend the community. If we get solid proof that tulpas function like trauma-formed headmates with the brain patterns, thats going to cause even more questions and upset even as it validates other systems.
We did see a fair but of dodgy stuff go down there though, so we do also squint a bit more than some systems at 100% fully singlet to plural folks crafting a tulpa of the gender the fancy as yeah, there were quite a few tulapmancers who looked like dodgy 'make a spouse that lives in my brain and loves me with no effort on my part' creep stuff might have been going on. Thats less so nowadays as from what we see now the community jumps on people who dont seem to be treating their tulpa right MUCH harder then they used to, but it still makes us pull a face internally when they tick too many boxes.
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The first inclusive plural spaces online that didnt try to chase us off for not being Textbook Perfect Dissociative Disorder that we found were mixed-tulpa spaces and daemonism, so people going from singlet to plural doesnt twedge us out nearly as much as it does yall- we have positive associations with tulpamancy as a FAR more welcoming space to learn system skills.
Being exposed to all those people talking about their experiences in-depth for whom new headmates was always joyous and healing(and not a blurry ball of confusion or a no-emotions 'well ok then' sort of thing as it seems to be for us) helped for sure. The more you understand and read and expose yourself to new stuff unlike your experience the more tolerance you have for it and all that. Its part of why despite being Squicked Out Bad by integration stuff we make an effort to at least try reading some of it. Maybe eventually we will have less of a kneejerk to it.
If you arent familiar with a particular community At All it can feel a lot more strange and threatening. Tulpamancy is one of them for both plural folks and singlets because of how it so casually crosses those borders weve all put up and has a totally different culture and framework around the whole thing. They are pushing the limits of the human brain in new and untested waters and thats Going to be uncomfortable to a lot of people.
They are doing something thoroughly unlike many people's experiences, and it calls into question the nature of plurality itself in a way that fundamentally bothers a lot of people. What *really* causes plurality, what is *really* happening if a tulpamancer's end result is indistinguishable from a trauma-based system thats achieved healthy multiplicity from a 'from birth' endogenic multiple? SO many theories that are popular get toasted when you take into account reports from that community and their material experiences being so similar- when the fact that tulpa techniques WORK for other kinds of systems to learn skills or to help their headmates become more separate. They can be free of the troubles that more dissociative and/or traumatized systems have and still be plural- flying in the face of a hundred 'you have alters so you that is your ENTIRE validation for your trauma and the only way you need to justify your suffering' teachings even more than 'normal' endogenic systems do because 'they might just not remember it' doesnt work when its documented as it is.
Their findings and community can feel like a threat when they upend the status quo like that and then dont give any answers to the questions that they raise.
Theres an MRI study thats happening on tulpa systems (they recently finished putting people in the machines so hopefully it gets published soon) that may further upend the community. If we get solid proof that tulpas function like trauma-formed headmates with the brain patterns, thats going to cause even more questions and upset even as it validates other systems.
We did see a fair but of dodgy stuff go down there though, so we do also squint a bit more than some systems at 100% fully singlet to plural folks crafting a tulpa of the gender the fancy as yeah, there were quite a few tulapmancers who looked like dodgy 'make a spouse that lives in my brain and loves me with no effort on my part' creep stuff might have been going on. Thats less so nowadays as from what we see now the community jumps on people who dont seem to be treating their tulpa right MUCH harder then they used to, but it still makes us pull a face internally when they tick too many boxes.