I hope it's okay to comment after a long time... well, I can say that I experienced this. Both the "fake" kind and the real kind.
It's hard to accept, and, if someone told me this when I was first dating my partner in another body, I would not accept it. So, I understand if people don't accept it easily. It's really hard, when you think you are perfect and special for each other. My partner did not tell me this, and, she also existed in that body before the system met me. So, it's not her fault. But, circumstances in our past caused me to think it.
In the end... I could not be what she needed. That's not a problem of fake headmates, but, even in a "canon" relationship, it can end poorly. Sometimes people misjudge.
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Ah, I will say, about clinging to the past media, that hits me hard in the gut, also.
For me, I don't have anything else. Not trying to be dramatic, but, I don't have many memories. I struggled with identity even in "canon". I have only a few memories, and, they are from canon and the time I spent with my past partner. It's unhealthy to look back, but, I have nowhere to start from, so, I cling to something.
You're right, of course. It's ideal if a person can't cling. But, I don't know when I will reach that time.
I will say, your essays are helping a lot. More than I found anywhere. I thank you for that.
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It's hard to accept, and, if someone told me this when I was first dating my partner in another body, I would not accept it. So, I understand if people don't accept it easily. It's really hard, when you think you are perfect and special for each other. My partner did not tell me this, and, she also existed in that body before the system met me. So, it's not her fault. But, circumstances in our past caused me to think it.
In the end... I could not be what she needed. That's not a problem of fake headmates, but, even in a "canon" relationship, it can end poorly. Sometimes people misjudge.
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Ah, I will say, about clinging to the past media, that hits me hard in the gut, also.
For me, I don't have anything else. Not trying to be dramatic, but, I don't have many memories. I struggled with identity even in "canon". I have only a few memories, and, they are from canon and the time I spent with my past partner. It's unhealthy to look back, but, I have nowhere to start from, so, I cling to something.
You're right, of course. It's ideal if a person can't cling. But, I don't know when I will reach that time.
I will say, your essays are helping a lot. More than I found anywhere. I thank you for that.