Nope, no, it’s too late, now I’m mad.
Going off the posts that inspired this, ‘little’ can mean, depending who you’re talking to, ‘small,’ ‘a child,’ ‘my inner child,’ ‘a member of a multiple system who is a child,’ or ‘a role that I play in kink activities.’ All of these uses of ‘little’ make total sense, and pretending that using any one version is ‘stealing’ from the DID community is so laughably absurd that I’m astounded anyone even pauses to consider it. Except I'm not, because it’s actually a clever little thought-trap.
Saying, “You’re appropriating from the marginalized” puts the person in a double bind where if they’re not a member of said marginalized community, they are not qualified enough to actually prove the term false without showing themselves as a privileged self-absorbed chucklefuck. Now, a true chucklefuck won’t CARE, so won’t fall for it, but for someone who cares very deeply about their language and being considerate, they’re stuck. This trap takes advantage of their desire to be a considerate, caring person, using it instead to strong-arm them into believing something totally ridiculous. (Because after all, they can’t just GO to a member of the marginalized community and ask, because “EDUCATE YOURSELF.” They can’t even challenge the person’s own credentials, even if they’re some faceless anonymous, because how insensitive!)
So you develop this environment where to shut down even the most blatant of bullshit, you have to have (and publicly admit) to having these correct demographic marginalization markers. And that royally pisses me off!
First of all, disproving a statement SHOULD NOT REQUIRE membership of a certain group. I’ve been able to disprove blatant horseshit (like that long-running tumblr myth “multiple is a DID-only term!”) with the most basic cursory research. And that is how statements SHOULD be disproven, with logic, critical thinking, and research. Those are skills that can be taught and developed. Community membership, however, can NOT. You’ve either got DID (professionally and expensively diagnosed, of course) or you don’t, and if you don’t, you’re fucked. You might as well not even BOTHER using critical thinking, because apparently that’s ABLEIST.
And second, by creating this whole membership requirement, it kinda behooves folks like ME to waste my carefully hoarded spoons to go around stomping misinformation, when I have so many better things I could be doing. I could be drawing a pretty picture, or cleaning my room, or petting Genius Cat, but nooooo, I end up doing THIS, because I have my stupid street cred so I’m ALLOWED to say, “No, this is total horseshit,” without opening myself up to unscrupulous trolls who use their own demographics as beating-sticks.
This isn’t a DID-only thought trap, of course. I’ve seen it used in pretty much any circle I run in that involves some form of marginalization. But it INFURIATES me. Critical thinking is a skill that should be encouraged and taught; it is not something to be held hostage to demographic membership. And that should NEVER be controversial.